… shouldn’t be justified by the severity of the difficult situation.
It’s important to treat them as two separate events which should, if anything, be inversely correlated.
That is to say, the more difficult the situation, the better you should handle it. But instead, a common occurrence seems to be, the more difficult the situation, the worse it is handled, with blame being attributed to the situation itself.
Bad things are going to randomly happen. If you react poorly to a particularly challenging event, all you’ve succeeded in doing is make a bad situation worse.
That is counterproductive and definitely qualifies as something obvious to notice.