I was bad because it was hard.

A bad handling of a difficult situation shouldn’t be justified by the difficultness of the situation.

It’s important to treat them as two separate events which should, if anything, be inversely correlated.

That is to say, the more difficult the situation, the better I should handle it.

But instead, a common occurrence seems to be: the more difficult the situation, the worse it is handled, with blame being attributed to the situation itself.

Bad things are going to randomly happen. If I react poorly to a particularly challenging event, all I succeed in is worsening a bad situation.

That is counterproductive and definitely qualifies as something obvious to notice.